BECAUSE YOUR ENGLISH SHOULD SOUND LIKE YOU — CONFIDENT, NATURAL, AND YOUR OWN 

Does that meeting still haunt you? Let’s talk about it. 

We’ve all had them — those uncomfortable “bad English moments” that leave you replaying conversations in your head long after they’ve finished. Maybe it happened in a meeting, a presentation, or even during a casual chat. You stumble over a word, freeze mid-sentence, or lose your train of thought entirely.

Here’s the truth … Everyone who speaks another language has those moments. I’ve had them too — in Spanish, and even English when my brain decides to take a break.

And before you know it, your confidence takes a hit. A “bad English moment” doesn’t define your ability. It’s simply part of using another language in real life. These moments often teach us far more than we realise — if we know how to handle them.

If you’ve ever frozen mid-sentence, this post will help you recover after a bad English moment and rebuild your confidence step by step.

For more insights, check out this post on why we freeze when speaking English.

Why Facing a Bad English Moment Matters ... and Not in a Bad Way

You're not alone in this. We all have times when words don't come out right. 

But here's the thing, these moments are actually powerful learning opportunities. When you face them instead of avoiding them, you take back control. You stop letting fear define your experience and start understanding what’s really happening underneath that discomfort.
 

How to Reflect and Reframe What Happened

First, don't shy away from what happened. Take a moment to consider it.

What actually happened? Was it as bad as it felt? What did I do well, despite the nerves?

Often, our mind magnifies these instances. Writing it down helps to create perspective. You might find that you communicated more effectively than you thought. 

Reflection helps you separate the feeling of failure from the facts of what actually occurred — and that’s where growth begins.

Turn Setbacks into Setups for Confidence

Every setback is a setup for a comeback. (Yes, read that again, people!)

Confidence isn’t about avoiding mistakes, it’s about knowing you can recover from them. Try to see the experience as information, not evidence that you “can’t speak English.”

Ask yourself – What can I learn from this?

Maybe you discovered that certain vocabulary feels harder to recall under pressure, or that you need a few go-to phrases for when your mind goes blank (“Give me a moment to think,” “Let me rephrase that,” etc.).

By reframing what happened as feedback, you remove the emotional weight from the moment and turn it into a learning opportunity.

And remember, most people think everyone notices their mistakes, but in reality, they’re just as focused on their own.

Practical Ways to Rebuild Confidence

After a confidence knock, the temptation is to avoid speaking altogether. But avoiding English only reinforces the fear. 

The fastest way to rebuild your confidence is to keep using the language — gently and consistently.

Start small. But start! Speak to a colleague, comment in English on a LinkedIn post, or practice aloud for five minutes each day. The more you expose yourself to real communication, the easier it becomes.

Remember, confidence doesn’t appear before you speak — it grows because you speak. Every time you show up, you’re teaching your brain that it’s safe to try again.

Celebrating Small Wins

Progress in language learning rarely feels linear. That’s why it’s essential to recognise and celebrate the small moments that show you’re moving forward.

Did you finish a conversation that would have scared you a month ago?
Did you correct yourself and keep going?
Did you stay in English when you could have switched languages?

Those are all signs of progress.

Recording small wins in a journal or notes app helps you see how far you’ve come — and builds evidence that you can communicate effectively, even on tough days.

Each success, no matter how small, is a building block toward your ultimate goal.

Creating a Supportive Environment

Facing challenges alone can be daunting. Surrounding yourself with support can make a huge difference.

 
Surround Yourself With Encouragement

Confidence grows faster when you’re surrounded by the right people. Find or build spaces where you can speak freely and safely.

That might mean joining a conversation group, connecting with a language partner online, or working with a coach who focuses on confidence and communication.

When you feel supported, speaking stops feeling like a test and starts feeling like a conversation.
 

Final Thoughts: From Setback to Your Greatest Strength

A “bad English moment” doesn’t signal failure — it’s proof that you’re using your English in the real world, and that takes courage. Every uncomfortable experience offers insight, and every time you speak again, you rebuild your confidence a little more.

The next time your mind replays a moment that didn’t go as planned, remind yourself ... 

It wasn’t a failure — it was feedback.
And I can grow from this.

If you’d like to deepen this mindset even further, I highly recommend watching Carol Dweck’s TED Talk: The Power of Believing You Can Improve.

It’s a powerful reminder that your skills grow through effort, consistency, and compassion — exactly what you’re already practising in your English. You don’t have to navigate these moments alone. Confidence grows with support, and that’s exactly what my newsletter community is here for.

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